Monday, April 22, 2013

She's Called Nova Scotia


Rita MacNeil, singer, song writer,
daughter of Cape Breton, Nova Scotia,
was laid to rest in her hometown 
in Big Pond, Cape Breton this week.

"Upon my death, I want to be cremated immediately. 
My ashes to be place in my tearoom teapot – two if necessary.”

News - RAW VID: Funeral for Rita MacNeil
And so she was.

Rita MacNeil:
Cape Breton,
Nova Scotia,
Canada and the world says,
May you rest in peace.






Sunday, April 21, 2013

Happy Birthday Alec

 Alec Beaton Connor,
today, and every day,
I celebrate you, my son,
my one and only.

You are kind, considerate,
loving, affectionate, smart,
 observant,wickedly funny,
determined and curious.



You are a joy to behold
and to hold.

I love sharing this life with you.
I love being your mom.
I love you more than you know.
 
Happy Birthday,
Mom (or, as you say, mum)

                                         










Friday, April 12, 2013

Beyond Bullying

Rehtaeh Parsons is shown in a handout photo from the Facebook tribute page
Rehtaeh Parsons
Seventeen-year-old, Rehtaeh Parsons,
 was removed from life support this past Sunday.
Last week, this Nova Scotia teenager, hung herself.

Why would a lovely, seventeen-year-old young woman,
 end her life?

According to her mother, Leah Parsons,
when Rehtaeh was fifteen,
she was sexually assaulted by four boys,
at a home. Apparently, one of the boys
took a photo during the assault and posted
it on the internet. After the posting,
Rehtaeh was the target of online assault:
these actions go beyond bullying.

Why were the four, teenage boys not persecuted?
The Royal Canadian Mounted Police pursued
an investigation, but due to insufficient evidence,
no charges were laid.

"The justice system failed my daughter,"
Leah Parsons said in an interview.

People across Nova Scotia, 
and throughout Canada,
are asking, "Why?" 
 Why is it, that a young woman,
a victim of a sexual assault,
 becomes a victim of cyber assault?

Justice minister, Ross Landry,
 refused to review the initial investigation.
 Due to an outcry from people across the province,
he has reconsidered.

Nova Scotia, this lovely, Maritime province,
surrounded by the Atlantic, has the highest rate
of sexual assault per capita in Canada (Avalon, 2009).
Halifax, its capital, has the third highest rate
of sexual assault in Canada (Avalon, 2009).

How are we, the parents, teachers, politicians,
counselors, school administrators, 
 friends and citizens, 
failing our children?
Why is silence still the norm,
shame the secrecy?

How young is too young, 
to teach our children,
"No," means no?

What is consent? 

While many internet posts are crying out for revenge,
Rehtaeh's mother says she wants justice,
not retaliation.The cyber-activist group,
Anonymous, apparently was threatening to release
the names of the four boys.
At the request of Leah Parsons,
they backed away.
"I think they, (the boys), need to be accountable
for what that they did,"
Parsons said. "I don't want them
to be physically harmed."
http://www.cbc.ca/news/canada/nova-scotia/story/2013/04/10/ns-rehtaeh-suicide-reaction-todd.html
I hope Rehtaeh, you rest in peace.
I hope your story
 brings lasting change.
As a society,
 I hope we learn to say
"No:"  we will no longer
slip into silence;
we will no longer
allow shame to become
the new secrecy;
we will no longer
accept cyber assault, 
or violence against our children.

How young is too young,
to teach our children, 
"No," means no?

Teach your children now,
teach them well.
















Thursday, April 4, 2013

Welcome to Canada


With my brother Rick, visiting from Ottawa, 
we drove to Halifax and a visit to Pier 21,
where, after WWII,   "over one million immigrants
 and refugees  from Europe and elsewhere," landed.
This was their first glimpse of Canada, their new home.
Leaving their homeland to come to Canada
Our next door neighbour Erik, arrived here from Denmark when he
was ten-years old.  He, along with his mother and siblings, came
to re-unite with his dad.  You don't have to say too many "Hello's"
before you meet a Nova Scotian with connections to Pier 21.

 Many "war brides" with young children, arrived
in Halifax to meet their future husbands, soldiers they had met
overseas.











War Brides on board ship

They arrived tagged, wondering if they
would recognize their husbands,
wondering what their new life
would be like.


Before any immigrant could
land on the Canadian shore, a doctor would examine
them.
Imagine this---
 after travelling across
 a sometimes stormy ocean,
 after arriving in a land
where  perhaps they
 did not speak
the language,
after waiting for oh so long,
they would have to wait even longer,
to be examined by a complete stranger,
to have their papers processed,
their baggage examined.

 Many Canadians, not only on the East Coast,
 but throughout Canada, trace their history back to
Pier 21 as the point of entry for a new life,
far from the ravages of war.

Pier 21 was also the departure point for 496,000 Canadian
troops during World War Two.

ships ready to leave
 Bedford Basin in Halifax
during WWII

 
Our father, 
Richard Arnold Prashaw, 
was one of those troops.
At 27 years of age,
 dad  arrived in Halifax,
 a soldier with the Perth Regiment
from Southern Ontario, Canada.
Along with his regiment,
 he boarded the Reina del Pacifoco,
on October 5, 1941,
 heading to Liverpool,
England, leaving his fiance,
my mother, behind.
Reina del Pacifico
 Dad never talked to us about
the war. All we know is,
three days after the war ended,
his buddy, marching just a few
feet in front of him,
stepped on a land mine.
Shrapnel from the mine
pierced my dad's face,
near is left eye.  My dad lost
some of his hearing.  He also
lost his buddy.

I'm not sure why history,
especially of the wars,
seem to be following
me around.  Perhaps because
I live with two guys
who are fascinated about
the history of WWI and WWII,
or just history in general.

All I know is,
my father fought on the front lines
during WWII.  He received
a Mention in Dispatches for bravery
in the field.
PRASHAW, Richard Arnold, Private (A.106881) 
- Mention in Despatches - Infantry (Perth Regiment) - awarded as per Canada Gazette 
and CARO/6074, both dated 22 September 1945.
http://www.perthregiment.org/perthcitations.html
All I know is,
I am grateful that he came back,
that he married my mom.

 The rest is,  well, seven kids history.
Alec, Jude and Rick
Dutch Memorial at Pier 21 


Welcome, to a little piece of Canada.

Jeff, the wanna be and Alec